Topic: Tithe-2
From:
Mandy, posted 27/9/06 6:58 PM

Damon was also present.When we went back on Saturday 16th (Ians 38th Birthday), Damon arranged the sunflowers he had brought and the other flowers from everyone, they looked lovely!

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Topic: Tithe
From:
Mandy, posted 27/9/06 6:51 PM

On Friday 15th September, Jools, Keith, Myself, Mum, Dad & Kirsty put Ians ashes to rest in the Tithe Burial ground at Oxton, Nottingham.The Tithe is a beautiful place. It’s a natural open space for Eco burials and internments, that will eventualy become a woodland.There’s lots of wildlife around and I’m certain Ian would have loved it! Anyone can visit anytime if they so wish.

From:
Ians Mum, posted 7/10/06 3:37 PM
Mandy it was lovely to read, and will always stay with me. xxxxx

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Topic: C for Carole!
From:
Carole Young, posted 28/3/06 11:09 AM

I’ll always remember Ian (etc) for the rest of my life when I watch ANY sci fi, like ‘A for Andromeda’ last night on BBC4!!!! I am v v lucky to still be here and I know it………….Just visiting – haha!!

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Topic: Valentine Message
From:
Ian’s Mum, posted 21/2/06 4:42 PM

Julie I have just read the valentine message Ian sent you in 2002 that you have posted on the daily memory board. That was the most special and romantic message I have ever read, and it makes me very proud to have been mother to a son who could show how deep his love was for you

From:
Carole Young, posted 1/3/06 12:39 AM

Thanks 4 sharing message. I envy you a love like that. You made such a lovely couple and Ian obviously adored you. We all know that but he wouldn’t want you to stay sad forever either. We are all here 4U.

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Topic: Merry Christmas!
From:
Carole Young, posted 23/12/05 11:33 AM

2 Ian and everyone who reads this board.

From:
Ians Mum, posted 6/1/06 1:26 PM

All the family were together on Christmas Day Carol and I think this really helped all of us.As Ian’s sister prepared to go home in the evening Ian’s dad said to Josh, the youngest of our grandsons, who is 8, I think it has been a nice day Josh do you? Josh then replied yes Grandad ,but it would have been nicer if uncle Ian had been with us. I hope Ian was with us all. Thank-you for your kind thoughts at Christmas

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From:
Carole Young, posted 12/12/05 4:06 PM

Wish I had known Ian longer – he was such a sweet and special friend. I shall be toasting him when the new ‘Dr Who’ begins!!!!!!!!!

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Topic: (Aunty Barbara)
From:
Ians Mum, posted 11/12/05 10:27 AM

A friend called to see me the other day.She had known Ian for many years. When he was in intensive care once, he was 11, Nottingham Forest were playing for the European Cup and it was the day we found out who shot “JR”, he insisted on having a television to see these things happening, his (Aunty Barbara) as he always called her made him rosettes to wear as he watched, the football match. When he came home he gave a little photograph of himself in his new jacket, which he loved ,to say thank-you.She has always kept this photo in her purse since the day he gave it to her.She has written a little poem for him and although I know Ian was not religious I feel he would have liked this knowing how deeply she felt about him. IAN, MY FRIEND THE GOLDEN GATES ARE OPEN THE ANGELS TOOK YOU THROUGH WE LOOK UP TO HEAVEN AND WATCH YOU WALK THROUGH THE STARS TWINKLE AND SHINE JUST LOVE MY PICTURE OF YOU LOVE AUNTY BARBARA AND FAMILY

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Topic: About Mr Ian
From:
Tim, posted 12/11/05 1:36 AM

All I can say is that my life is certainly richer from meeting Ian. Over the last 8 years no more than a week ever went by without getting together or a night that we didn’t talk face to face, on the phone or on MSN.So many people say Ian was their best friend and I am no exception, one of his unique abilities was that he didn’t have a “best friend”; instead he managed to have an army off “BEST FRIENDS” – truly indicative of the amount of Warmth, Love and Kindness that Ian kept inside his multicoloured jumpers.In a way it seems selfish to say that I miss him, its like losing an arm or two, which of course Ian would have found funny – imagine a no armed man attempting to open a door, getting stuck in a phone box or even a TARDIS – and then suddenly it seems better as in my mind I hear his infectious laughter. As I said right at the beginning my life is certainly richer from meeting Ian.Ian always said that I was “clever” after all I am a teacher, but no teacher could ever teach me what Ian did, to live life with a smile on your face and as irreverently as possible. I miss you Mr Ian, but with so many good memories I know you will never truly be gone. P.S. You’re still my mate; you don’t get out of it that easily.

From:
Jools, posted 13/11/05 0:30 AM

Tim that is so lovely, that has brought tears to my eyes but made me smile

From:
Gloria(Ians Mum), posted 17/11/05 1:51 PM

Tim On reading the message you have just written for Ian it was as if I was reading a message written by him,not for him.Not only his laughter was infectious but his approach to life.Thank-you Tim

From:
Mandy, posted 17/11/05 2:18 PM

Well Tim that made me smile & cry! It’s like listening to Ian speak, not reading about him. You two got on sooooooo well, you were both very lucky to have the friendship you did,(something to do with you both having the same wicked sense of humour).We all miss him, but like you said try to think like Ian did and live life with a smile on your face!

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Topic: Real good friend
From:
Jan & Paul, posted 11/11/05 12:47 AM

Ian was a really good friend, he was always there if I needed help with my computer. He made this one for us and we have had many hours of fun on it. He was always kidding around and making us laugh, and to make Jan laugh it’s got to be good. Never will meet anyone as comical and happy as Ian, he will be sadly missed by us both. god bless.

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Topic: My special friend
From:
Carole Young, posted 11/10/05 5:58 AM

U2 were an inspiration. I first met Ian with John at a ‘Star Trek’ Con in Leicester and later, happily, met Jools etc too. I had a v serious heart op and that became a bond between Ian and I. We all shared really special memories, like your wedding day, when I named a star after you both called ‘JULIAN’ (get it???!) and I last saw Ian alive in summer 04, together with my friend Isobel. We often spoke on the phone after I returned to Scotland. Ian was v v brave and Julie was 2, to knowingly take on this life – fab as it turned out!! Bless you both and Ian will remain in the hearts of all who knew him………

From:
Mand, posted 17/10/05 7:52 PM
Hi Carole, Ian always admired your strength and fight through all the things life threw at you. That’s probably why you two got on so well! He was chuffed about the star naming,( they’re the only two people I know with a star named after them!) and Ian always liked to be the first to do or have anything!

From:
Carole Young, posted 17/10/05 7:57 PM
Thanks Mand! I never knew that and it made me cry. You were really lucky to have a brother like that and you know it 2. Stay well.

From:
Carole Young, posted 23/10/05 2:40 PM
Have just put a pic next 2 my PC of John, Vince, Boyd, Ian (who is sitting in my wheelchair of the time!) and I all sharing a bloody good laugh!! It is a very happy photo but is even more special to me now and is a memory I will cherish.

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Topic: pal from Cal
From:
Nick, posted 18/10/05 3:08 AM

During the summer of 1985 my twin brother wrote a letter that was printed in Starlog magazine. This letter somehow caught the attention of Ian, who felt compelled to respond, and thus a wonderful friendship was born. Tony always shared his letters from Ian with me. I remember the day when Ian stopped sending letters and started sending audio tapes of himself instead. It was always so exciting to hear what Ian had to say on his side of the world. Naturally, through my brother who always shares everything with me, Ian became my good friend too. Flash forward to 1999. Ian, Julie and Vince arrived at our doorstep. It was so awesome to finally meet our friend from England. Ian was able to meet my wife, Lulu and I was honored to finally meet his wife, Julie. Tony was still at work when Ian, Julie and Vince arrived. When he finally came home a few short hours later, I was witness to such a wonderful encounter between two best friends. It felt more like a reunion. When Tony peeked his head in the door and said, “Hello”, Ian jumped out of his chair and hugged Tony only the way the very best of friends do. That was such a great moment. It was as if we had all met before. Like I said, it felt much more like a reunion. We had such a great time showing them around town. Julie even cooked us a meal one night! Ever since then Tony and I always mention we wish Ian and Julie lived close by to us because we had such a great time with them. Ian always called me pal, so since I live in California I penned the phrase “pal from Cal” in all my emails to him. I trully miss this wonderful man. I’m very grateful that I got to meet him in person. Ian was by far the BEST FRIEND Tony and I have ever had.

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Topic: memories of Ian
From:
AJV, posted 11/10/05 0:26 AM

There are so many great memories of Ian. My favorite memory was meeting him in person six years ago when he came to Los Angeles with Julie (and their good friend Vince). Prior to that moment, I had only known Ian through written correspondence, telephone conversations, and emails. We also used to correspond via audio cassette recordings back in our younger years! It’s funny to imagine that two fellas could become such close friends without ever meeting each other, but we did. We became best friends. I’ll never forget the moment I walked into my apartment that evening six years ago to see Ian and Julie sitting in my living room. It was such a great experience! Something we had hoped and planned for such a long time. As we shook hands, it didn’t feel like two friends meeting for the first time. I had known Ian so well, for so long before that. It was as if we had already met before in person. It really made me realize the strong bond we had as friends.

From:
Gloria (Ians Mum), posted 15/10/05 3:35 PM
I sat at the side of Ian during one of his many stays in hospital and he was looking at a book with address for pen-pals in America. Shall i try writing Mum? he asked Ive always wanted an American pen-pal.I am so glad he chose you Tony I remember the invitation you sent him to your high school graduation,he could not go but he was over the moon that you had sent it to him.For years he said I will make it to America one day and I will meet Tony and all his family in person he did with his loving wife Julie who made many of his dreams come true for him.

From:
Mand, posted 17/10/05 7:42 PM
Hi Tony, although we’ve never spoke in person we all felt that we knew something about you because of how much Ian spoke about you and your family. I used to roll my eyes when Ian made us speak into the tape recorder for the audio messages he would send you, I felt so embarrassed, but what a wonderful way to communicate! He was SO excited when he knew he was actualy going to meet you all. I don’t think he could believe it was realy going to happen, he’d wanted it for so long. I hope you know how happy it made Ian to not only meet you all, but also the fact that you all became such great friends. Thank you for making my brother so happy.

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Topic: forever friends
From:
kirky, posted 18/10/05 0:34 AM
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hi what can i say, i first had the luxury of meeting ian at school in nottingham right away we became freinds all through to senior school and we remaind that way .i suppose what i remember most is all the fun we had sitting infront of the tv on a saturday afternoon watching battlestar galactica and fall guy or useing our imaginations and let moddle airplanes fly from the windows of his bedbroom he was always comming up with ideas of what to do sadley i moved and lost contact for 20 or so years 2 years ago i signed up to freinds reunited and to my joy found ians name and decided to send a email and there we was again talking about battlestar galactica and friends again he will surely be missed

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Topic: The Day Ian Was Born
​From:
Gloria (Ian’s Mum), posted 14/10/05 11:20 AM

When Ians sister Mandy was brought into our bedroom to see her new brother (she was only 2 years old) she could not believe that the midwife had left her a little brother, Ian had arrived two weeks early and in the middle of the night, so when Mandy had gone to bed the night before she did not expect such a surprise that morning. She thought that the midwives brought new babies in the large bags they carried with them! She made her daddy take her to her aunty Sylvias who lived two doors down to tell her, and then to her grandma and grand-dad who still lived in the same house I had been brought up in further down the road. However later the doctor came to see me looked at Ian as I was not happy with his colour and sent for an ambulance and police escort to the hospital. Mandy then refused to speak to her dad and I as she thought I had given him back to the midwife. Ian was in intensive care first at the City Hospital and then transferred to Groby Road at Leicester. Children under 11 were not allowed to visit Intensive Care then and try as we may we could not convince Mandy we had not returned Ian to the midwife.After Ian had his first heart surgery at 5 days old and came out of intensive care we took Mandy to see him and she kissed and kissed him saying now you’ve been mended you can come home and finally she kissed us as well because she finally knew we had not given her new brother away.

From:
Mandy, posted 14/10/05 5:25 PM
I think thats lovely

From:
Carole Young, posted 15/10/05 9:50 AM
It must have been a terrible worry 4U all Ian’s entire life but I bet you never thought he’d live as ‘long’ or become such an inspiration to all who knew him. You, his parents and sister, did a wonderful job in helping him become the man he was.

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Topic: The Worlds BEST Brother
From:
Mandy, posted 12/10/05 6:23 PM

My Brother was one of the nicest people I knew.He was brave,honest,thoughtful,kind,giving….I could go on & on!He always had time for me, we’d moan together, laugh together, and just enjoy being “brother & sister”.We were always very close & he was an inspiration to me. He always looked on the bright side and lived his life to the full!I respected him & I loved him with ALL my heart.I’m happy he met Jools & that they had such a happy, love filled time together.Ian, I’ll always miss you, but I’m so lucky to have known you!

From:
Gloria(Ians Mum), posted 17/11/05 1:59 PM

My daughter. The love between you and Ian was very special you stood up for him when he was bullied at school,you suffered with him when he was going through bad times having surgery but o didnt you make him speechless, which was a very rare thing to do, when you turned up in fancy dress as a punk rocker with safety pins everywhere for the fancy dress at the royal wedding party we had in Wareham Close!!!!!!!!

From:
Carole Young, posted 19/11/05 10:35 AM

Gloria, I never knew Ian was bullied at school!!! How damn CRUEL!!! I hate hearing of bullying as I was too (also because I never kept well) and it made me cry when I think what a lovely, funny and special son U had.

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Topic: Messages for Ian
From:
Julie Towle, posted 10/10/05 11:31 PM
Please feel free to leave your own thoughts/memories of Ian, thank you.

From:
Mand, posted 12/10/05 6:27 PM
Jools it’s wonderful! Thank you.

From:
Gloria(Ians Mum), posted 17/11/05 2:21 PM

Thank-you Julie for this lovely page.Whenever I look at it I feel Ian is still here with us and I am learning a lot about his adventures with you and all his friends.